Control is dysregulation in action

Control is dysregulation in action.

It’s all force. All doing to the other. My energy pushed onto them.

Influence? That’s different.

Influence happens from regulation. It’s active, yes, but gentler. More feminine. And before you mistake gentle for weak: influencing is strength.

The question is: where is that strength coming from?

When you’re controlling someone, you feel powerful. Strong. But if that strength is rooted in dysregulation?

Versus if it’s coming from a regulated place within.

Our true feminine nature isn’t passive. It isn’t weak. It’s strength from regulation, where our influence is felt by those around us because we’re connected to ourselves.

When we need to control – people, outcomes, money – we’ve dropped out of regulation.

And our greatest power becomes inaccessible.

Coming back to regulation means coming back to our bodies. To our needs. That’s how we step back into feminine power. That’s how we influence everything around us again.

This is our power.

It starts with moving back into our bodies.

Let’s do this now. Pause and notice your body language right now. Are you bracing anywhere? See if you can soften a bit, in your shoulders, your jaw, your stomach. Notice where you might want to put your hands: hand on hand over your chest? Arms spread wide and open? Or something in between. Take a deep breath (as deep as it’s willing to go without forcing it), and with your exhale see how your body wants to express itself…

What are you trying to control right now, and what becomes possible if you come back to your body first?

If you want to go deeper:

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Supporting your wholeness,
Rena

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