130 – How to fight fair in marriage

This episode is from a live event I did in my community. The topic of the podcast is How To Fight Fair in Marriage, but the tools I share in this episode can be applied to all aspects of life. As a child of divorce I always feared that a fight meant the end of my marriage. I give my five rules for fighting fair.

Here are some of the topics I cover:

• Remember the 80/20 rule – take the 20% that will make the 80% difference for you.
• Here are my five essential ingredients to fighting fair:
  • Needs
  • Parts
  • Felt-sensing
  • Nervous system regulation
  • Neuroplasticity / visualization
• Fights can be an opportunity for growth when fighting is fair, an opportunity for understanding each other’s needs more clearly and truly being there for each other.