352 – Somatic Mindfulness Practice: Where You End and They Begin

This practice uses the physical boundary between your body and the surface supporting you as a way to sense into relational boundaries — where you end and another person begins.

When to use this practice:

• Before a conversation where you need to set a boundary
• When you’re not sure if you’re taking on someone else’s emotions
• After listening to “His Reaction Is Not Your Responsibility”
• When you know you need to say no but feel guilty about it
• Anytime you’re struggling to distinguish between what’s yours and what’s theirs

  What you’ll need:

• 10-15 minutes of quiet
• A comfortable place to sit or lie down
• A boundary situation that has some charge, but isn’t your most intense one (around 3/10)

Note: Boundaries aren’t meant to control the other person’s reaction. They’re for you — to know what’s yours to hold and what isn’t.