335 – Vulnerability in Marriage: Learning to Need Your Spouse

You made space for your husband to step up. He’s fumbling through it. And you’re standing there thinking: I could do this so much better. Should I just take over again?

But – when you’re asking “is this worth it?” you’re trying to calculate a payoff you can’t even see yet. Your vision of what marriage could be is being imagined from inside the wound – from inside the pattern of doing everything yourself.

In this Q&A conversation, Rabbi Yonasan and Rena Reiser tackle two listener questions that reveal the same challenge: learning to be vulnerable in marriage. Not just “let him help with tasks” vulnerable. Actually vulnerable – admitting you have inadequacies, expressing uncomfortable feelings, asking for what you need.

They explore why this feels so foreign when you’ve been independent your whole life. Why most women can’t even recognize what they’re feeling, let alone ask for it. And why there’s no shortcut around the discomfort – real interdependence requires learning an entirely new language.

This Episode Is For You If:

• You made space for your husband to step up and he’s fumbling – wondering if you should just take over
• You’re exhausted from handling everything but don’t know how to need your husband
• You’re in early marriage transitioning from independence to vulnerability
• You can’t recognize what you’re feeling, let alone what you need
• The thought of asking for help feels embarrassing
• You’re perfectionistic and struggle watching anyone (including yourself) fail
• You wonder if you’re capable of real interdependence