How to actually feel it

So we know the way out is through. We know fear comes first, and we give it space. And then what?

For me, it comes down to Focusing — and a variation of it that I stumbled into that changed everything.

Focusing, in its traditional form, works best with another person holding space. Most people can’t do it alone. But what I discovered is that writing-to-delete can fill that role. I write — just letting whatever’s inside want to come out — and then I pause. I take those words inside and invite my body’s sense of it. Then I write some more. Back and forth, until something new starts to unfold. The writing holds space for me, the way another person would.

And the key that made it possible was knowing I could throw it out afterwards. For years, the thought of someone coming across my private thoughts was paralyzing. The permission to just delete it — to write freely because it didn’t have to survive beyond that moment — gave me a feeling of safety I hadn’t had before.

Give what’s inside somewhere to go.

This is the heart of what I teach in B’Etzem Level 1 — how to work with Focusing, with the nervous system, and with Torah wisdom, to create real change from the inside out. Five Tuesdays starting May 26. Early bird ends this Friday. renareiser.com/betzem.

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Embodiment is the feminine path to Menuchas Hanefesh. You don’t have to walk it alone.

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This week’s book recommendation: If this email resonates with you, I recommend The Mindbody Prescription by Dr. John Sarno. Dr. Sarno explores the powerful connection between repressed emotions and physical symptoms — and how giving expression to what’s inside can be the path to real healing. It’s a read that genuinely changed my life. Order a copy here — this is an affiliate link which doesn’t cost you anything extra and helps support my work.

Supporting your sensitivity,
Rena

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