132 – Want to be more compassionate to your kids? Start with more compassion for yourself! A conversation with Blimie Heller

This episode is from an interview with Parenting Coach Blimie Heller. Blimie is one of my all-time favorite interviewees and this is my 3rd episode interviewing her. Blimie and I have changed so much over the course of the last five years from the time that I first interviewed her. In this episode we talk about the ways we’ve changed in our approach to our work. We also talk about a major tool in creating a compassionate approach to viewing ourselves, our clients, and our children.

Below are some points we cover:

Being able to spend time with shame.

The significance of having a second person witnessing our discomfort and helping emotions shift.

The philosophy of Non Violent Communication on seeing the beauty in unpleasant emotions.

Does being divine mean we only embrace the positive?

The gift of presence and being triggering – realizing that you don’t have to do something about it.

Needing to fix each other

Having needs vs being needy

Creating compassion for our children.

Seeing the need in resistance from parents and clients.

Genuine compassion doesn’t feel like work.

Blimie wanted to clarify that she exercises caution when sharing her feelings with her children so as not to make them feel responsible for her feelings. Also, sometimes, she doesn’t share her feelings at all and simply processes them with someone else. She only shares her feelings with them when she is 100% clear inside that her children are not responsible for her feelings and only if she believes it will in some way be beneficial for them to know.

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