Author / Rena

I wrote this five years ago. Tonight felt like the right time to send it again. I fell.The tears flowed as the pain registered.“Get up!” – I told myself and cried some…

In Focusing, we want to put it into words. But — and this is so important but we often forget — we want to fumble and stumble to get those words out.…

I want to talk about something that, as an Earth, I know firsthand. Part of our greatness as Earths is also our downside. We do not take criticism very well. We don’t…

There are a lot of different ways of looking at the four different elements and how they relate to personality types. Different folks take on their own approach to what each type…

One of the biggest misconceptions people have about nervous system regulation is that it’s something we’re supposed to do when we’re in the throes of dysregulation. In my experience, that couldn’t be…

We are social beings. That’s not a nice sentiment — it’s a nervous system fact. In order to thrive, we need a sense of connection in order to feel safe. When we’re…

A few weeks ago, I gave a workshop to the largest group I’ve ever spoken in front of — ~60 women. I gave them a condensed version of one of my retreats,…

Men, in general, have a very consistent stream of energy. They’re able to go and get things done and accomplished. Women have ups and downs in our energy levels, over the course…

When we’re in dysregulated states, accessing the felt sense becomes very difficult. When we’re in shutdown, we tend not to feel much. Everything’s kind of numb and blank and absent. And even…

There’s a tool in Focusing called the Experiencing Scale. It was developed as a way to measure where a client is in the focusing process; based on how deep they’re at, you…