Every time we interrupt someone’s emotional process, we’re doing something more damaging than just stopping their feelings. We’re denying their internal reality. When a child is upset and we say “you’re fine,”…

Here’s something counterintuitive about dysregulation: When someone’s nervous system has detected danger and they’re in fight/flight, they will unconsciously view anyone trying to “help” them as a perpetrator on some level. Even…

So someone just took your vulnerable request and centered it around themselves instead. Now what? You could explain why that hurt. You could try to educate them. You could give them another…

Have you ever had someone tell you they could finally feel close to you after you became vulnerable? As if your defended self wasn’t worthy of connection. As if they needed you…