Category / Nervous System Regulation

Twenty+ years in Israel. I’d never lived through a war or even a siren until last year’s Hezbollah conflict shook my entire system. The sirens terrified me. I barely left our mamad.…

Purim is over. Your nervous system might not know that yet. The body doesn’t reset the moment the seuda ends. It takes time to unwind from noise, from running, from giving, from…

On this week’s podcast, my husband mentioned something that I found genuinely grounding. The Mishna Berura – written a little over a century ago – already felt the need to address the…

The instinct when we feel stifled is to try to remove the stifled thing — to push it out of the way so the joy can come in. But that’s not actually…

There’s a concept I come back to a lot: the window of Menuchas Hanefesh. The range within which your nervous system can be with an experience without being overtaken by it. The…

We’ve been exploring boundaries. But understanding it in your head is different from feeling it in your body. This practice uses the physical boundary between your body and the surface supporting you…

When I’m overwhelmed about something I need and can’t figure out how to get — I Focus. Not to strategize. Not to plan. I invite my body in. I listen to what’s…

Ever find yourself pre-managing the conversation before it even happens? Knowing you need something. But already imagining how he’ll react. Already worried he’ll feel guilty, or stressed, or overwhelmed. So you say…

Needs can never conflict with each other. Only strategies can conflict. So when a wife needs x (eg relaxation) and a husband needs y (eg stability) — those aren’t opposites. They can…

When you say “I need a blanket,” you don’t actually need a blanket. You need warmth. Or comfort. Or maybe containment. The blanket is just a strategy. We do this constantly. “I…