Author / Rena

We’ve been exploring being vulnerable in marriage (and in life in general). But understanding it in your head is different from feeling it in your body. So this week I recorded a…

Here’s something I tell my clients: If there’s no emergency or threat to life, go take care of yourself. Make sure there are no knives accessible to little kids and nobody’s hurting…

The world is, by far and large, emotionally illiterate. Most women can’t recognize their own feelings. Can’t identify what they need. So when someone tells you “just express your needs to your…

We may have this fairytale image of what it will look like when our husbands take care of our needs. It’ll be perfect. It’ll look exactly how we want it to look.…

As women, especially perfectionistic women, we have a hard time embracing doing something we think we’re going to fail at. We either do things we’re really good at, or we avoid all…

We’ve been exploring our “Window of Menuchas Hanefesh”. But understanding it in your head is different from feeling it in your body. So this week I recorded a 10-minute somatic mindfulness practice…

Recently I told a friend: “I wish I could move out of my home and give it to you!” She needs a place. I want her to be comfortable. And I meant…

Years ago, I read an article that asked: what will people say at your levaya? The implication was clear: push yourself harder. Do more chesed. That’s what matters. And I get it.…

There’s a line in Mesilas Yesharim – one my husband reminds me of often – that changed how I think about obligations: “Mah chovaso be’olamo” – what is your obligation in your…

I’m creating a new term: your window of Menuchas Hanefesh. It’s the range of what you can do while staying regulated, grounded, present. While still being you. Not what someone else can…